Dancing Well with Everyone

I get a lot of comment that I make most of my partners look like really good dancers. There's no special skill to this. Just pay attention to the basics, whether one's partners do or not. Stand up tall, chest slightly forward, walk to their centre, dance with their feet. The last one is the most important.

All I need from them is the feeling that they are trying to follow and won't guess too much.

If my partner strides confidently around with a lot of attitude, guessing every step and without any respect for my axis or our connection...I don't usually dance with them very often.

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